Even if you are not particularly sensitive to your own experience of the Human Condition, you can probably still identify things in your every life that you beat yourself up over, regret, or otherwise berate yourself for doing/thinking/feeling. We are all stuck in behavior patterns that were formed early on in an attempt to get our needs met when they were not. We even participate in elaborate stories or games with others in an attempt to seek external validation, or "strokes." We substitute the sustenance obtained by the "strokes" for actual physical contact, which is essential for survival, and which we are ultimately deprived of by our parents somewhere along the way. Whether or not we are ever able to consciously observe ourselves in these mini-dramas, or whether we are never able to separate ourselves from the viewpoint of the participant in the drama, guess what? We are all taking part in the dramas.
It would seem, therefore, that the age-old conventional wisdom about our need to forgive ourselves for our shortcomings is necessary. None of us are free from the limitations that being human entails, and none of us need suffer the agony of refusing to forgive ourselves for simply existing and for trying to get our needs met.
By doing so, we are then able to step back into the Now Moment, and are free to enjoy the stimulation, excitement, and comfort that are available to us and to our loved ones during each moment that we are able to share together, and during each moment that we are only sharing with ourselves.
So go ahead - forgive yourself for something that's been eating you. Then give yourself a hug, and be sure to give your loved ones a hug next time you spend a moment with them. It is much easier to give others permission to be human when we have given ourselves permission to be human, faults and all.
LOVE TO ALL, JUDGMENT FOR NONE, FOR WE ARE ONE
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[edited] message from the Council of Light channeled by Rebecca Couch
Thursday, 1 January, 2009
...Forgiveness is not a supplication; it is the great power of love. It is the great healer, the neutralizer, the magic elixir, the reset button. It is the ointment of the return to innocence and purity, a rebirth, a second chance. And with each new day comes just this opportunity. The tarnish of past errs, real and perceived, holds you down. It holds you back from being the full expression of who you are. You fell and got dirty and now you believe that you are dirt. Far from it! Forgive. Ask for forgiveness and receive it knowing that it is so. It is done. By using it and praying it and being it and knowing its great power, you will lift yourself and all others in your experience in this powerful blessing. You are not bad, you are not unworthy, you are not less than, you are not a disappointment, you are not a failure. What if each sunrise meant that you were perfect and could start again? Each breath is another chance. So take it. Become it.
... Today is a new day.
And so it is a perfect time to press the reset button before beginning anew. Sit, like a native elder, wrapped in the blanket of your experience, around the campfire. Draw to you the memories of this past year and let them all just be what they are inside your heart. Send the ones filled with light to the fire in gratitude. The heavy ones, melt the outside with forgiveness to reveal the light and send them too to the fire in gratitude. Purify in forgiveness and gratitude to prepare to begin again. And now, free of the old burdens, allow yourself to imagine what takes place in the perfect year ahead. Now it is time to dance it into creation!
...Just do what you can to not give up, at any time in any way. If you stumble, forgive yourself and the situation and all others involved, and keep on keeping on. The weight of the world will be lifted one act of forgiveness at a time. Let this be your service today and all days.
As you mark the turning point of one year to the next by one day to the next, we celebrate all that you do for the whole. We say, go team go!
With love and abiding blessings for a miraculous 2009, for it will be so.
The Council of Light (of course we are within!)
www.heartlight.ca
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