Monday, September 29, 2008
8/27/08 Lesbian Pioneer Del Martin has Passed
From the National Center for Lesbian Rights:
Today, the LGBT community lost an iconic leader and a beloved friend. Del Martin (pictured on right), 87, passed away in San Francisco. Martin was one of the nation’s first and most visible lesbian rights activists who dedicated her life to combating homophobia, sexism, violence, and racism. Martin began working as an activist after receiving her degree in journalism from the University of California at Berkeley. While working on a newspaper in Seattle, Martin met her partner Phyllis Lyon and the two began working on behalf of lesbians in their community. Martin and Lyon have devoted their lives to working towards LGBT equality, healthcare access, advocacy on behalf of battered women, and issues facing elderly Americans. Their many contributions over the past five decades helped shape the modern LGBT movement. In 1955, Lyon and Martin were among the founders of the Daughters of Bilitis, the first lesbian rights organization. In 1956, they launched “The Ladder,” the first lesbian newsletter, which became a lifeline for hundreds of women isolated and silenced by the restrictions of the era. Del Martin was the first openly lesbian woman elected to the board of the National Organization of Women (NOW), and in 1971, encouraged the board to pass a resolution stating that lesbian issues were feminist issues. In 1995, Martin and Lyon were named delegates to the White House Conference on Aging by Senator Dianne Feinstein and Congresswoman Nancy Pelosi. In 2004, Lyon and Martin became the first same-sex couple to be married in the state of California, and subsequently became plaintiffs in the California marriage case, helping to ensure that the fundamental right to marry under the California Constitution belongs to all couples, including same-sex couples. Del Martin and Phyllis Lyon were married in California on June 16, 2008 after 55 years together. Gifts in lieu of flowers can be made to honor Del’s life and commitment and to defeat the California marriage ban through NCLR’s No On 8 PAC
Tuesday, September 23, 2008
Nature in California
Well.
There are 11 planters at my office full of them.
In Texas, the only place you could get these was at a florist. And look! They are everywhere! The hummingbirds go completely NUTS - I tried to get a photo of one, but they are just too fast.
Monday, September 22, 2008
Goddess of the Week - Venus
Howie got all James Dean on me.
Saturday, September 20, 2008
So I started a "shock" dose of prednisone for a week...
Friday, September 19, 2008
The Valley is Deep
I see myself smiling in this photo. I look happy. It is so strange. How can that photo be the same person that lives in quiet desperation, day after day? 16,558 days to be exact. Single, for 16,558 days and counting.
I want that on my tombstone.
"Tortured by singledom for {insert number here} days."
Sunday, September 14, 2008
Beach and more beach
Aren't they a scream?
LOVE TO ALL, JUDGMENT FOR NONE
dave
Friday, September 12, 2008
Monday, September 8, 2008
Monogamy vs. polyamory
We have to define "polyamory" first of all. A polyamorous relationship is not the equivalent or in any way comparable to an "open relationship," where each partner is free to go and have sex with whomever s/he chooses. Rather, a polyamorous relationship is one in which a married/partnered couple finds themselves in the situation where one or both of them feel such a connection or attraction to a third party that they agree that it is OK for one or both to enter into a sexual relationship with the third party. There is no expectation that the "married/partnered" relationship status will change in any way, but rather that they may offer to extend their love to another, in the physical sense. (This of course comes with a spiritual sense as well, but for those who are unaware of the spiritual connections/connotations of sexual relationships, we'll stick with physical for now).
The channeled messages especially have been challenging us to challenge our own belief systems, since they are what has caused us to get into the mess that we are in today, collectively. We need some new models on which to build our society.
Belive you me, I was a *staunch* critic of marital affairs, I guess because I saw what destruction that they seemed to leave in their wake. However, the extramarital sexual activities engaged in by one party was never known or admitted to the other party, or, when it was, they split up.
Polyamory, on the other hand, has a distinctly different construct than what we generally define as an "affair." Special care must be taken to ensure that everyone is on the same page, and that nobody's heart gets trampled in the process. But I am willing to concede that I think it is possible for a group of people to enter into such an arrangement successfully.
I think it is quite rare, and would have to be based on the fact that all parties involved were particularly advanced in the studies of esoterics and metaphysics, history, religion, and self-awareness.
Let's hear it for being able to change yet another wrong paradigm in my brain!
LOVE TO ALL, JUDGMENT FOR NONE
dave
Sunday, September 7, 2008
Anniversaries are worth examining...
In the current world view, I am getting what I think about, so it is time to redirect my thoughts. So, one more time I will place my order with the universe for a loving, smooth-skinned, slender and delicious man who is nuts about me next to me every day and in my bed every night, laughing, loving and giving. He'll be here anytime now so I celebrate his arrival!
LOVE TO ALL, JUDGMENT FOR NONE
dave
Thursday, September 4, 2008
Ascension is NOW
At all.
But this fact *does not* negate the intensity of the emotion. I have sort of had this feeling as a backdrop for many, many years, for various reasons that are just not important to discuss right now. And I have voiced this emotion before. But this time, I was truly ready. I had made my peace with God that I finally knew what love was, and I was prepared to leave the planet now that I had been able to access that for myself. It was a happy thought, really, to know that one had actually completed a life lesson, and could say on his deathbed that it was all worth it. Honestly, I did not think there was a future for me. And in the past 4 days since then, I have been shown things and have accessed dimensions and levels of love emanating from the Creator that have literally brought me to tears, over and over and over again. It is mind-boggling to be given such a gift as this, and I frankly have no idea how it is going to fit into my immediate future. But what I can tell you is that I think I have arrived at the destination where I am supposed to be to begin my "life's calling." I don't even know that I have identified what it is yet, but I don't think it matters. I think it will just evolve, as everything else has evolved, RIGHT ON SCHEDULE!
I know that I had prayed so hard and so long for a loving place to be such as POETS Irvine, with like-minded people who are energy sensitive and who understand what period of history we are present in now. I am so thankful for that group and for its members.
I am so grateful for my dear friends who allow me to be MYSELF, and to allow me to study so that I can find all the clues I left myself so that I could find the way HOME!!!!!
My God, it is a fascinating time to be alive.
LOVE TO ALL
dave
Breakthrough in Therapy today!
If You're Not The One by Daniel Bedingfield
One day, I will sing this beautiful song to someone who needs to hear it - someone that I want to be mine.
If you're not the one then why does my soul feel glad today?
If you're not the one then why does my hand fit yours this way?
If you are not mine then why does your heart return my call
If you are not mine would I have the strength to stand at all
I don't want to run away but I can't take it, I don't understand
If I'm not made for you then why does my heart tell me that I am?
Is there any way that I can stay in your arms?
If I don't need you then why am I crying on my bed?
If I don't need you then why does your name resound in my head?
If you're not for me then why does this distance maim my life?
If you're not for me then why do I dream of you as my wife?
I don't want to run away but I can't take it, I don't understand
If I'm not made for you then why does my heart tell me that I am?
Is there any way that I can stay in your arms?
I don't want to run away but I can't take it, I don't understand
If I'm not made for you then why does my heart tell me that I am?
Is there any way that I can stay in your arms?